Wait 3 years to Have Children and Other "Wisdom" from the World
Had I heeded the world's advice to wait a while, after marriage, before having children, I would not have two of the blessings Jesus has sent my husband and I. When I hear this "wisdom" from the world, I have come to accept that this is typical thinking, for the unsaved.After all, the unbeliever's mind and conscience is defiled. (Titus 1:15) But when believers adopt such worldly wisdom, it is truly grievous. For, as Christians, redeemed by the blood of the Lamb, we ought to seek God's Truths in His Word.
Malachi 3:15 states, "And wherefore one? That He might seek a godly seed." God ordained marriage for raising up godly seed, for His Glory. Contrary to popular belief, marriage is not for selfish pursuits, but rather, for learning to live for others. It can be an amazing sanctification tool, to learn self denial and to grow in Christ.
I have learned much about my husband, in the many sacrifices he has made for me and the children , in the first few years of marriage.I have seen him grow and mature in his relationship with God. Had we simply indulged in our own agendas, I doubt that we would have been stretched to be more like God. On one occasion, after the birth of my son, I was utterly fatigued. Out of sacrificial love, my husband stayed up one night, to help take care of our son. Having the children He sends, has enabled us to grow in the Lord. Of course we struggle, and we see our frailty when we don't abide in Him. But He is ever faithful to be our constant help.I am thankful that the Master called us to trust His Plan, from the beginning of our marriage.
Life with little children can be challenging, yet it is a true opportunity for growth.When we find that we don't have all of the answers, which is often, our children drive us to the foot of the cross, to seek wisdom, from the One who knows all things. I pray that God will root all "worldly wisdom" out from my heart, and replace it with His life-transforming truth. Blessings!
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Posted by Christine at 7:41 PM
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Christine, you are right that the wisdom this world gives regarding having children and raising them is "garbage" for the most part.
Thank you for reminding me again that it is God's Word that gives perfect wisdom regarding our families. Praise Him for being faithful!
Excellent post Christine. I so agree with you. Learning to sacrifice for one another is one of the greatest blessings there is.
My husband and I were just married May 10, and I became pregnant within a month of our wedding. :) We were planning not to prevent pregnancy, and are so thrilled! We're both so thankful that God gave both of us these convictions before we had opportunity to look back with regret at the years we spent limiting our family size.
Great post, Christine! I'm with you 100%. :)
wondefully said. I totally agree. I got pregnant on our honeymoon and I praise the Lord everyday for that "little" blessing named Maggie.
Your blog is very inspiring and thought provoking. I can relate to your post, because so far I've trusted God with the conception of my two children. I need prayer to continue to trust him after I have my second baby.
I admire your convictions. Be blessed.
Thank you for this lovely post! The "three years" really hit home for me as my husband and I were not convicted about letting the Lord plan our family until after the birth of our first baby--a few months after our third anniversary. I have often grieved over the lost possibility of the one or two other children we "might" have had if only we had understood from the start God's desire for a godly seed.
My husband and I have six blessings from the Lord ages 9,8,6,5,3,and 10 months. I am eager for more. Yes, it is a struggle at times but think how boring life would be without them. My husband and I have trusted the Lord to guide the number of children we have knowing he will only give what is best and for His glory. Thank you for your encouraging blog.
It was upon hubby's request that we wait until I was 26 to have children (we married when I was 21). Packed with a bunch of lies from the birth control industry and fellow Christians, I went on birth control. Those were 4 of the hardest years of my life, especially after I learned about what birth control pills REALLY do. Thankfully, when we moved, hubby said I could go off the pill and I got pregnant at 25 years old. We now have 2 children in our arms and 2 in the arms of the Lord (miscarriages after the birth of our 1st child.) Still, I shudder at the thought that we may have more in Heaven, killed by the poison I took.
I have new logic that I plan on passing down to my children. If you feel you don't want children right away and just want to "enjoy married life," then you're probably not ready to get married.
While I don't blame hubby, because we were both misinformed and tainted by so called "wisdoms," I'm also going to plant it in my sons' heads to NEVER put their wives in a position to take birth control.
I really appreciate this post. My husband and I were married 5 years ago at at 18 and 21, much to the disgust (yes, literally) of most people we knew. I have always felt called to be a wife and mother above all else, so it felt natural to me, but was not appreciated by many other people. When it comes to children, most people still assume our babies were surprises or accidents since we're still young. :( Little do they know that it took us a year and a half to get pregnant each time, and we've had 2 confirmed miscarriages (I have a feeling there were more, but they weren't "confirmed"). Children are such a blessing. It boggles my mind when people think they can pick snd choose that. :(
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